★ caffeinated mum of twins ★

My girls have been discharged from the NICU recently so I am farely unexperienced as mum of twins however I have gathered some advices from other twin mums and I am using my experience with my first daughter Charlotte! I think the most important thing with children is to trust your instincts. You were given them for a reason. Every time I went against my instincts, I regretted it. And every time I followed my instincts, I was so glad I did. No exceptions.

  1. You will become a master of logistics. Taking care of twins demands some degree of organization and planning. You have to find your way to do things. Celebrate your achievements. Making it to a doctor’s appointment with almost everything you need is quite an accomplishment when your twins are babies.
  2. It’s okay to do things the easy way sometimes. As a twin mom, you have a LOT on your plate. It’s okay to use paper plates, disposable diapers, and order a pizza for dinner. When you get a good system down, you can switch things up to be more environmentally friendly if you want to.
  3. Parents who have a “philosophy” usually have an “issue.” I’m sorry if I’m offending anyone, and I’m sure I am, but I’ve found that parents who adhere to a strict parenting philosophy do so because they aren’t completely confident in their parenting. And really, who is completely confident in their parenting? Having a philosophy that others are using is comforting, and it gives you rules and parameters. Using that philosophy as a tool to bully other parents into thinking they’re not doing a good job indicates a self-confidence issue. Their issue, not yours. Try to give them a break. They are struggling just like everyone else. They just don’t want to admit it.
  4. Breastfeeding is not mandatory. Do not let anyone let you feel guilty about choosing not to breastfeed. You know what’s best for you and your babies. If it happens to be breastfeeding, that’s fantastic. If not, that’s really okay too. Especially with preemies!!
  5. Be ready for the invasive, personal questions. People will ask you all kinds of weird questions about your pregnancy, whether or not you did fertility treatments, how your life is going to be SO difficult, yadayadayada. They usually mean well. Try to be as kind as you can, smile and nod, and forget what they say.
  6. Get a good stroller that fits through double doors. Like the Bugaboo Donkey. It is the Ferrari of the strollers however it is easy to use. It’s your ticket out of the house. If it’s possible, go for lots of walks outdoors. It’s good for you and your babies.
  7. Order stuff from Amazon. Going to the store a bazillion times a month for baby supplies gets old really fast. Amazon has everything, and they usually have the best prices.
  8. You need some help. I am fortunate because my family helps me out during the first few months, they take care of Charlotte, do the laundry and cook. Having twins really shines a light on the supportive people in your life.